Couples’ Therapy
Wrestling with Relationship Problems
Almost everyone who comes to me for individual therapy is aware of wrestling with some relationship issue, whether big or small.
The couples I work with bring that relationship issue into the room!
Guidance in Dealing with the Problem
I know the pain, frustration, confusion – even desperation – of conflict in relationship, both inside and outside.
I bring to couples’ therapy not just good ideas and solid research, but many years of road-tested experience.
It could be as simple (using the term loosely!) as not feeling seen or heard or understood.
Or perhaps right now you are in crisis in your relationship and need help defining your separate and combined response to it.
Whether you are searching for deeper connection or trying to resolve a crisis, I have something for you.
Tools of the Trade
The Enneagram (see www.enneagraminstitute.com for a valid, reliable test) is the most useful tool I have studied for revealing our inner motivations and hidden conflicts.
When I bring it into my work with couples, clients often feel that the lights have been turned on – you can finally begin to see and understand why you and your partner connect (or don’t) and behave (or don’t!) as you do.
Attachment theory and the Imago approach have had a great impact on my work with clients. We can talk about how they can turn your relationship around!
Becoming More Intimate
Growth in intimacy is central to all growth in life, and intimacy can show up (or not) in everything: sex, money, power, family, chores, dreams, morning coffee, and brushing teeth!
We can work together to discover the blocks to intimacy – and then together you can make the choices to work through those blocks.
Time to Grow
If you’re interested, I have developed a gentle and powerful practice for developing couples intimacy, called Lectio Intima.
Spirituality and Health magazine published my article about it in the Jan/Feb 2019 edition.
To know more about this work, please see the page on Guided Retreats.